In most cases, the words “men” and “commitment” can never be in the same sentence unless the word “hate” is between them.
Women who were able to find a guy who can easily commit are lucky. Men are, by nature, hunters. They look for the next big thrill, which is why the thought of settling down can be unnerving.
If you want to know how to make him commit, then try out these five easy tips.
Don’t give him everything before he’s committed
If you’re in a situation wherein a label isn’t really applicable yet, or if you’re in that limbo stage where he’s not making a move to push things to the next level, then one good move would be to slow down with whatever you’re doing.
For those who are not yet an official couple, don’t give him the benefit of sex yet. If he knows that he can get you to bed without becoming your boyfriend, he probably never will be.
Never give him an ultimatum
When you’ve been waiting for a long time for him to pop the question or even settle down and date you exclusively, it’s normal for women to start feeling antsy and be tempted to give him that final chance.
But if there’s one thing that most guys tend to run away from, it’s the proverbial “If you don’t go steady with me, it’s over.” More likely than not, if they are not ready to commit to you, they will see this as a way out.
He will assume that it’s okay to take you up on your bluff and tell you that you may be better off with a guy who’s ready to settle down—unlike him. Hastening the process might be the worst move you can make.
Don’t treat him like he’ll be your last boyfriend
Thoughts about settling down and being with the person you are currently with are easy to come to most women. They can imagine themselves getting married to their current boyfriends and live a happy ever after.
For guys, this isn’t necessarily the case. Until the ring is around his finger and you’ve both said the words, “I do,” nothing’s final. In fact, for some, even marriage doesn’t mean finality.
When you’re not yet engaged, don’t treat him as if he’s the only man you will ever be with. This atmosphere is almost worse than being the clingy girlfriend. You will tend to see him as someone who will be with you forever and he might not be at that stage yet.
Let him into your life—slowly
Just because you’re not yet in a committed relationship—maybe you’ve been together for a few years—doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t let him into your life.
The same way that a man would take his woman to meet his family, letting him meet yours is a big step. But you have to make sure that he doesn’t see this as an intimidating move.
As long as you don’t drop jokes on marriage too early into the relationship and letting him meet your parents won’t be too much of a shock to him.
Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable around him
Men are naturally protectors of women, and they feel good when they know that you depend on them.
It doesn’t matter if you are a feminist or an independent woman. Every once in a while, let him take care of you. When he becomes accustomed to the idea of him always being there for you, the thought of a long-term commitment will come in more naturally.